TOS

By entering and using this website, the chat room, and forums you agree to abide by the following terms of use. We are free to report you to the local authorities, or your ISP if you chose to break these rules.
            1. We don't recognise eating disorders as a lifestyle choice, it is an illness and a
             disorder. If you are "pro-ana" please leave this site now.
            2. If you want tips and tricks, you won't find them here! Asking for this, or
             suggesting or asking for tips will result in being banned from the site.
            3. Slander, disrespect, and abusive behaviour will not be tolerated. If you don't
             abide the code of conduct we have the right to contact your ISP or the local
             authorities.
            4. We aim to keep members over 18, however, we will make exceptions based
             on circumstances. Please, just try to act maturely.
            5. We take suicide threats seriously, and have the right to contact the local
                emergency services if need be.
            **Every life is worth living. To live is a precious gift! Live life to make a
             difference in the world. What we do effects others.**
            6. Please refrain from posting pictures or quotes that would be triggering.
             (Emaciated models, thinspiration, celebs, etc.)
            7. There will be no fasting groups, crash dieting, or any of the such allowed in
             this website.

We have these rules to keep you safe. Do not argue with the administrators or moderators. They are here to help you. If there is anyone arguing with eachother, this can result in a ban!

1. Absolutely no tips, tricks, or information detrimental to yours or anyone else’s health. There will be no exceptions with this rule!

2. Thinspiration; quotes, pictures, models, videos, or any of the like, that promote eating disordered behaviors, are not allowed. Please refrain from posting them.
If you are, however, posting an article, or story on someone who has an eating disorder for informative purposes, please post a trigger warning.

3. Triggering content, be it stories about abuse (emotional, physical, sexual), self harm, suicide, etc. please post a trigger warning.

4. Please respect the opinions of others, no bashing of the personal beliefs of others, everyone is entitled to voice their own opinions.

5. Sexually explicit content is absolutely not allowed, as it can be a major trigger for those who have had difficult times in the past.

6. No lurking on the chat or forums, please! Please post within two weeks of joining the forums, or your account will be removed. Sorry about that, but we do not allow lurking in the forums or the chat. We are here to connect with others like ourselves, not watch! You may be shy to post an entry, but everyone is very friendly and supportive and you will get warm welcome!

7. No rude comments towards any other members, if they have done something objectionable, just contact a moderator, or administrator and they will take care of it!

8. No drama, please! We want to keep this a friendly place for everyone!

Guidelines for when to use a trigger warning. (T)

Text:

Detailed text about abuse. (Sexual, Physical, Emotional)
Topics, or replies dealing with suicidal thoughts/experiences, stories of self harm.

Pictures/videos:

Body shots (T: body shot)
Evidence of Self Harm, past or present. (T: SI)

Anything else; use you own judgement, please, if you think it may be triggering to others, please post a warning in the subject! Thanks!

A few members have mentioned that they've had trouble with being triggered while in chat. While it's impossible to know exactly what might trigger someone, and the occasional incident will inevitably arise, there are a few measures we can take to keep things as peaceful as possible.

1) If you are linking to or about to say something that could potentially trigger someone, please make sure you include a trigger warning! This applies to both the forums and the chat room.

2) Topics that might be sensitive with some people include but aren't limited to:
Weight, food, weight-loss, or a person's "stats"; sexual assault; abuse of any kind; a person's race, sexual orientation or religion (racial/sexual/religious slurs of any kind will result in a banning); violence against women; a person's looks; self harm.
When discussing these topics, please practice discretion and provide a trigger warning! Of course, there is absolutely nothing wrong with discussing these topics, especially if you've dealt with any of the above and need a chance to get something off your chest or need some support. Hell, we'd be a pretty weird ED site if we didn't allow people to talk about their eating disorder and its possible causes. Just be careful when discussing these things.

3) On another note, if you're in a chat room conversation where someone obviously needs support and you feel triggered by the discussion, it's probably best to back away and avoid the conversation until the topic has changed to something else. Remember, sometimes someone really needs to talk about something that might be uncomfortable for you to hear -- and chances are there are things you need to discuss that other people find triggering. Hopefully we can forge a sort of give and take system, where we let people say what they need to say, and in return have them do the same for us. Make sense?

4) Do not call someone fat or tease them about their weight, even jokingly or sarcastically! You'd think this would be obvious, but there have been cases -- not necessarily on this website -- where people have done it. Chances are, the person will take your comments the wrong way and end up being triggered. It doesn't matter if you're just kidding or didn't mean to hurt someone -- please don't do this.

5) If someone accidentally triggers you while in chat, please contact them via PM first to let them know that you were upset by what they said. If you are unable to work things out or they continue to post offensive content, contact whichever one of the admin or mods is immediately available.You can contact Ronny or Wild.If they are not available get another admin/mod who is online at the moment -- we're here so that they don't always have to deal with everything and can take a break every once in a while Wink.

If someone posts triggering content in the forums that lack a warning, or intentionally links something that is obviously inappropriate and what a reasonable person would assume to be triggering while in chat (pornography, racism, etc.), do not hesitate to report it to the admins. We will remove it and either speak with the person or, if they're unreasonable and posting said content with the intention of hurting someone, ban them.

6) If you are contacted by someone who says that you've triggered them, try to understand that while you may not see whatever it is that you said as offensive, their past experiences might have been different than yours, thus leading to them being trigger by something you see as harmless. Just because something doesn't trigger you doesn't mean that it won't be hurtful to someone else. Do not take it personally if you are asked not to say something or asked to post a warning in future -- chances are, the person realizes that you weren't trying to hurt them, so don't feel like you have to be defensive. Remember, practicing sensitivity and understanding towards other people will make yours and their experience on this site much better.

7) Finally, mods and admins are not above the rules. If something we say triggers you, please feel free to contact us about it. You won't be banned or punished for being frank with us, as none of us are any better than the regular members. Everyone on this website is equal, no matter what the "title" under their name says. We, like everyone else, are capable of making mistakes. So please, don't feel like you can't tell us if we've triggered you -- frankly, we'd prefer you let us know, so we can prevent anything similar from happening in the future.

I don't think it's too unreasonable to ask that we be sensitive to everyone's individual triggers. I know it kind of sucks to be told that you've just triggered someone, and it's tempting to defend ourselves, but really, the best course of action is to apologize and try not to do it again in the future.